Are you a love browser or an impulse buyer? Are you loyal to a brand or do you suffer from love-buyers remorse…sending your bf back and picking up a new one. If you’re the latter you’d qualify as a “relationship jumper”.

Now to clarify, I’m not talking about the type of people who take a couple months in between relationships to find their next partner that they will then go out with for a year or two. I’m talking about the jumpers who already have someone lined up the minute they go back on the market. The ones who choose their partners like they’re browsing through a dime store picking out things on a whim. The person who absolutely cannot be single or alone.

Okay, so lets break this down. It’s obvious that everyone would like to eventually find Mr or Mrs Right. But should that be the only thing that drives us? Should it become such an all consuming obsession that we don’t actually take the time to understand who the hell we are? How about some introspection time people! Just a little “me” time in between the “he” times.

Truth be told I think I’m the die-hard single, total polar opposite of this type. Which also has its downfalls. But before you visualize me as the young single woman slowly starting her cat collection, let me explain my position…which some of you will absolutely disagree with.

The way I see it, the crazy decade that is your twenties is a time where you learn so much about yourself and find out what is truly important to you and where your values lie. It’s a time when you learn that you can depend on yourself in a crisis. That you can bounce back from some pretty harsh blows with your dignity and integrity still intact. Okay… partially intact. If you’re single during some of these rough times you’ll discover just how strong your character truly is. And that process is massively empowering and will fill you with unbreakable confidence. So then when you’re looking for Prince Charming, you’re shopping with a whole new set of standards and expectations, and although you may have to browse through the racks to find the one that fits you right…you’re way better off than riffling through the discount bin for what fits you right now, knowing you’ll be chucking Chuck next week and looking for something new.

Now I know those of you who are partnered up and prefer to be that way probably disagree with me and may hold the opinion that you learn a different side of yourself when you are in a relationship. A selfless and thoughtful side. You don’t just have yourself to think about, someone is putting their heart and trust and feelings in your hands and you are expected to respect that and not take them for granted. I totally appreciate that position. However I just don’t think you should put anyone before you.

Relax and hang out with that person you’ve known since the day you were born. Have some nice quiet time together. Some stimulating (inner) conversation. Then after you’ve really learned to understand them, and they you…go shopping together and try on a new partner.

Peace

Jill

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Introducing newest craze in health and fitness. This one form of exercise not only shapes and tones pretty much every muscle in your body, but it improves your skin, hair and emotional state. It’s not something you can buy in a store or order from an infomercial. In fact you may have it right in the palm of your hand! The secret to achieving these and many more benefits is to have…LOTS OF SEX!!!

Lets see Bally’s offer that to their Platinum members!

Need another reason to get down and dirty? Keep reading.

I know a lot of you women worry about your appearance and spend loads of money on beauty products to make you look smooth and glowing. Which is great. But here’s a little tidbit you can add to your regime. Studies show that having LOTS OF SEX can actually be a fantastic beauty treatment, as it produces the hormone estrogen in women, which helps to make skin and hair smooth and shiny. But wait! There’s more! Research also shows that gentle and relaxed lovemaking actually helps fend off blemishes and rashes as the sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow! So if slow and relaxed is your style (and you can manage to stay awake to finish it) you now have another reason to keep it up! Er…keep going. You know what I mean.

“But Jill? How do I get over these winter blahs?” Well, how about staying cozy and warm indoors and have LOTS OF SEX!!! Sex is an instant cure for mild depression because it releases endorphins into the bloodstream that produces a feeling of euphoria and leaves you with a sense of well-being. What better way to get out of a bad mood then to get it on! And what’s better is that the more sex you have the more attractive you become to the opposite sex! This is because the sexually active body gives off more pheromones, which drives the opposite sex absolutely wild.
It’s even been proven to be more effective than Valium in reducing stress and can eliminate everything from body aches to stuffy noses to headaches. Yes that’s right. It can relieve a headache! So the next time your partner says “I’ve got a headache.” Tell them it’s time to have LOTS OF SEX!

Now you may be saying “That’s great for my skin and my mind Jill, but what about those flat tummy muscles?” Well, what better way to burn off those extra calories then to have LOTS OF SEX!!! Studies show that sex not only burns calories but stretches and tones just about every muscle in your body. And it is wwwaaaayyyyy more enjoyable then swimming 20 laps or going for a 30 minute run! (Okay, that last part wasn’t from a study. Just my personal observation)
And did you know that sex three times a week maintained for one year is the equivalent to running 75 miles… with a perma-grin!

So my suggestion? Take off those running shoes….and while you’re at it, the rest of your clothes and hop into bed for a 30 minute romp!

Hmmm. Maybe I’ll look into becoming a personal trainer.

Peace

Jill

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So how do you define a “strong woman”? Is she the person who can handle anything no matter what the crisis is without breaking down or showing any sign of weakness? Or is she the girl who can deal with anything thrown at her but at the same time isn’t afraid to wear heart on her sleeve and show her weaknesses whenever they may surface? To me the latter is the stronger woman. I would like to think I am or at least aspire to be that woman. Someone who can go toe to toe with any man in any situation and hold her own without breaking down completely but also isn’t intimidated to speak up for herself when something might be bothering her. To me that is a strong woman. A woman who is confident and has the inner strength to realize that, yeah things might not necessarily be going exactly the way she had planned, but she is self-assured enough to know that she can handle whatever is thrown at her and pull through it with an even stronger sense of character and strength.

So what’s the secret? A thick skin? Positive thinking? Always being a “glass-half-full gal? If I’m feeling down in the dumps one day does that mean that I no longer demonstrate the characteristics of a strong woman? Is it in your genes? Can it be learned? Is asking too many questions a sign of weakness?

Okay, I’ll stop.

So what do you think? (crap, that was another question)

Peace

Jill

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At some point in every single girls life there comes a time for deep spiritual introspection. A time when you have to look deep into your soul…connect with your inner self…and ask the question that philosophers have struggled with for centuries.

What kind of dater am I?

I’m not sure about you but this is something I analyze way more then I should. For the most part I have great dates, but for some reason they never pan out into anything long term, and I am really curious as to why. Like any other confident woman I think I am a pretty good catch. And Lord knows I’ve taken the bait plenty of times. So why can’t any of these guys reel me in?

Is it the way I date? It seems to me women break down into five different types of daters. Read more…

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Pick’n up (cheers and groans)!

One of my most favorite things to do. Or… one of the most annoying things to deal with. I seem to change my mind from week to week which as a woman, is my prerogative. The trick is to not take the whole thing too seriously (although that doesn’t always work) and to sit back and enjoy the rollercoaster ride of the single life. Pay your admission to the bouncer at the door, buckle yourself into your barstool and hang on tight. Some rides are a screaming blast, some a little boring and calm and some a little too excessive resulting in some cookie-tossing and a hangover.

Okay, so lets look at the ups and downs…

Pick’n up isn’t reserved for the bars. It can happen ANYWHERE!! You can be in an elevator, at the grocery store, in line at the bank, the waiting room at a doctor’s office (ideally not an STD clinic), at the drugstore (ideally not after coming from the STD clinic), walking your dog, at a restaurant, work, church…yes that’s right. Even God fearing people hook up. Now most of these locations have never happened to me, but the ones that have I found to be pretty damn exciting. Being caught off guard by an incredibly cute stranger? Sign me up! -side bar- this only really works for me if the cute guy also has confidence and can work some serious game. Read more…

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