At some point in every single girls life there comes a time for deep spiritual introspection. A time when you have to look deep into your soul…connect with your inner self…and ask the question that philosophers have struggled with for centuries.

What kind of dater am I?

I’m not sure about you but this is something I analyze way more then I should. For the most part I have great dates, but for some reason they never pan out into anything long term, and I am really curious as to why. Like any other confident woman I think I am a pretty good catch. And Lord knows I’ve taken the bait plenty of times. So why can’t any of these guys reel me in?

Is it the way I date? It seems to me women break down into five different types of daters.

The Optimistic Dater
This is a woman who always looks on the bright side of things. She sees each date as an opportunity to meet that special someone. She may get down because of a string of bad dates but she perseveres and never gives up.

I hate (envy) this type of dater because since as hard as I try to stay positive…I just keep slipping off that damn horse.

The Cynical Dater
A woman who walks into the date expecting the worst. And usually gets it.

Now lets be honest, if you’ve been on a couple bad dates in a row it’s hard not to turn into Negative Nancy. But remember there’s only one guy that wants to end up with her at the end of the night. Jack Daniels.

The Impatient Dater
Now here’s a woman who….well…who’s um… Okay, it’s me.

We are a breed of women who have been there, done him…I mean “that”. We have heard all the same lines, had all the same first date conversations and are now ready to meet that one guy who completely takes us by surprise and brings some originality to the whole dating experience, and he’s got 10 minutes to do it! Crazy right? It would be like going to a comedy club and deciding that you’re not going to like the headliner because the warm up act sucked.

The Unrealistic Dater
A.K.A. the high maintanace dater. The chick who expects everything but a proposal after the first date.

Now if this is you, I’d recommend…and I’m no doctor…but before you put on your white gown and hide in the bath water, or boil a bunny (if you haven’t seen Fatal Attraction that last point will sound weird) just give your head a shake and lighten up. Although it might be one of the hardest things to do, relationships that move at a slower pace and allow the couple to really get to know each other tend to have better outcomes.

And finally…

The Vixen Dater!
The exciting flirt that completely mesmorizes men and has them hooked in minutes.This is a woman who has incredible confidence and doesn’t need men to make her feel fulfilled. She’s a man eater. The king of the beasts on the prowl in the singles jungle. But how long can the vixen really keep it up? It is a lot of work to be the woman who is unaffected by men around her.

So I guess dating can either be one of the most exciting things for singles to do…or a real bitch. But the chance of getting that feeling of butterflies in your tummy and really connecting with someone makes it all worth it. Which is why, as much as I sometimes hate dating, I will never get completely sick of it until I find that guy who can go toe to toe with me. I have total confidence that it will happen to me and every other single girl out there. And until then, have fun no matter what type you are!

Peace

Jill

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