Are you a love browser or an impulse buyer? Are you loyal to a brand or do you suffer from love-buyers remorse…sending your bf back and picking up a new one. If you’re the latter you’d qualify as a “relationship jumper”.

Now to clarify, I’m not talking about the type of people who take a couple months in between relationships to find their next partner that they will then go out with for a year or two. I’m talking about the jumpers who already have someone lined up the minute they go back on the market. The ones who choose their partners like they’re browsing through a dime store picking out things on a whim. The person who absolutely cannot be single or alone.

Okay, so lets break this down. It’s obvious that everyone would like to eventually find Mr or Mrs Right. But should that be the only thing that drives us? Should it become such an all consuming obsession that we don’t actually take the time to understand who the hell we are? How about some introspection time people! Just a little “me” time in between the “he” times.

Truth be told I think I’m the die-hard single, total polar opposite of this type. Which also has its downfalls. But before you visualize me as the young single woman slowly starting her cat collection, let me explain my position…which some of you will absolutely disagree with.

The way I see it, the crazy decade that is your twenties is a time where you learn so much about yourself and find out what is truly important to you and where your values lie. It’s a time when you learn that you can depend on yourself in a crisis. That you can bounce back from some pretty harsh blows with your dignity and integrity still intact. Okay… partially intact. If you’re single during some of these rough times you’ll discover just how strong your character truly is. And that process is massively empowering and will fill you with unbreakable confidence. So then when you’re looking for Prince Charming, you’re shopping with a whole new set of standards and expectations, and although you may have to browse through the racks to find the one that fits you right…you’re way better off than riffling through the discount bin for what fits you right now, knowing you’ll be chucking Chuck next week and looking for something new.

Now I know those of you who are partnered up and prefer to be that way probably disagree with me and may hold the opinion that you learn a different side of yourself when you are in a relationship. A selfless and thoughtful side. You don’t just have yourself to think about, someone is putting their heart and trust and feelings in your hands and you are expected to respect that and not take them for granted. I totally appreciate that position. However I just don’t think you should put anyone before you.

Relax and hang out with that person you’ve known since the day you were born. Have some nice quiet time together. Some stimulating (inner) conversation. Then after you’ve really learned to understand them, and they you…go shopping together and try on a new partner.

Peace

Jill

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