You meet this incredible guy who is smart, polite, sexy and has some serious game but…he’s broke. Do you continue dating him or do you hit the eject button? Why is it that money and status is so incredibly important to some women? After all, it doesn’t make a person complete or kind or even the sort you want to hang around with let alone hook your wagon to for the rest of your life. As Caroline Frolic says on our show “A-holes come in all socio-economic brackets.”

So what is it then that some women find so appealing about men that are thick in the wallet but thin on personality? Is it really worth sacrificing your happiness and self-respect for the newest purse or a dinner at the hottest new restaurant? Can Prada really help you find your spiritual bliss? Maybe I’m missing something. I mean there is nothing that I consider more torturous then having to sit through a delicious meal with great wine and someone as interesting to talk to as a wet rag. Usually if I’m stuck with a dude whose best quality is his ability to pay for an expensive bottle of wine I’ll have to chug it just to make it through the date!

Now I know I am inviting some serious criticism from women who may prefer to be taken care of and who actively seek out men who can provide a cushy life for them and living up to the label of a “dependant”. But think about it girls. What do you gain by having someone do all the work for you? How do you know you can take care of yourself if you had to and had no other option but to rely on your own abilities? Are you confident you could keep your head above water? Not to mention the incredible feeling of self-respect and confidence that comes with knowing you don’t “need” someone for monetary things. You can acquire all the riches and security all by your little-ole-self.

But to be fair, lets look at the other side of the coin.

No girl wants to pay for everything on a date either. As much as I refuse to date someone based solely on how much money he has, it also gets a little tired when you’re having to front all the cash for everything you and your partner do. I mean, as much as I’m happy to pay half (or in some cases all) for dinners, drinks or whatever we are doing, sometimes a girl wants to feel like a princess and that means not having to pick up the cheque. I was recently floored a couple days ago when I went out for a fantastic dinner with a great guy and when the cheque came and I offered to pay half, he vehemently refused. A total shock to me since I can’t remember the last time I have been asked out for dinner and not had to pay half.

So I guess the moral of my story here is that it’s sometimes nice to be treated to a nice dinner or a fun night out for drinks or whatever your choice of date may be but I refuse to be one of those girls on the prowl for men who will “take care” of them like they’re some damsel in distress. We need to step up and not always rely on prince valiant to swoop in and save us from our financial woes.

peace

Jill

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