One of the main things I get asked by viewers who either post on the site or email me directly is “besides a bar, where should I go to meet men/women”.

So here’s the thing. When you are looking to meet someone in a bar or nightclub the pressure (and anxiety) is already heightened because you’re on the hunting ground. Lots of people there are on the prowl so girls are expecting you to impress them with a clever opener and a smooth approach. Sheesh! You’re stepping up to the plate with a runner on third who’s expecting you to bring him home! (As mentioned before I’m a big baseball fan)

So maybe start thinking outside the box. Go to the clubs to just dance, have a few drinks and some laughs, but not to hook-up. (Ironically that attitude is really attractive) And at the same time keep your eyes open in other non-traditional places where these same awesome girls happen to be…but don’t have their guard up waiting to grade you on your game.

And I mean ANY place!

You could even spot the girl of your dreams in the feminine hygiene isle at the local drug store…wander up beside her and grab two different brands and say “you know, I just can’t decide which one of these would fit me better.” Odds are she will either laugh, smile or walk away, but my guess is it would be one of the first two.

And for the ladies out there? I always find you have a lot better chance of striking up a conversation if you flash a sweet flirty smile with a simple hello. Any guy, if he is interested, is a sucker for a smile that makes their heart melt. It’s an easy way to open the door for potential conversation.

So think of the things you love to do. Stay in your comfort zone and pay attention to other potential partners that share the same zone.

A cooking class, co-ed sports team, an animal shelter, art class, music class, graphic design class, running group, dance class, kite flying lessons - anything you can possibly think of!

And remember it’s more about where you are on the inside than where you are on the outside.

But that’s for another show.

peace

Jill

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Cancer.

Pretty much one of the most universal words you never want to hear from your doctor. It’s hard these days finding someone whose life hasn’t been touched by the disease. In Canada, Breast Cancer alone kills over 5000 women each year!

That is why myself and the rest of the TwentySomething crew are so completely honored and touched to be able to give back and support an amazing cause. Next Friday January 25th we will be hosting the first annual ‘ Breast Obsessed Event’ in support of Breast Cancer research and awareness. The event info can be found by clicking on the banner on our homepage but the night will be packed full of fantastic performances from 4 different Canadian artists/groups and a long list of celebrity VIPs who are coming out and rocking the night all in support of this very important charity.

Now I shouldn’t make the C word sound so completely dismal. Afterall there are many precautions you can take to decrease your chance of developing Cancer. The first and probably the most important is early detection. Especially when dealing with Breast Cancer.

Women in their 20s should start getting their breasts checked every two to three years, and that’s if you don’t have a history of breast cancer in your immediate family. If you do have a history of it you should be even more thorough.

You can also take preventative measures through diet and exercise.

Make sure to make fruits and vegetables a big staple in your diet. Particularly fruits/veg high in antioxidants and phytochemicals as they are packed with cancer fighting compounds. Also make sure you work in a significant amount of foods high in fiber and choose good fats as people who are overweight tend to be more at risk for developing cancer. But remember it can’t just be diet. You also need to stay active. If you’re like me, the gym and traditional cardio is not for you. But to keep up an active lifestyle I try looking for alternatives. I have recently been turned onto pole dancing classes (thanks Sammy). You have a blast and work up a serious sweat!

Obviously a terminal disease isn’t the most fun topic to talk about but it is an important one. It’s time to get rid of this attitude of “if I don’t know then it doesn’t exist”. It does exist and the older we get the bigger an issue it becomes. So take a proactive approach and start getting regular screenings just for piece of mind. And that goes for you too boys.

(I can hear the latex gloves snapping already!)

peace

Jill

“I’ve been a rock star since you were very young. But I’ve never encountered anything as powerful as cancer.”

- Melissa Etheridge

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We all know that good girlfriends are hard to come by. The ones that stick by you through anything and don’t judge you for stupid mistakes you may make. I am lucky to have a few of those girlfriends currently in my life. I love each and everyone of them and feel blessed that I have them.

However.

When birds of a feather only flock together, it can kind of skew your perspective and sense of direction.

I was in my early twenties when I moved into my own place and had the opportunity to learn how valuable boy friends can be!

I have one very close guy friend who I love just as much as my girlfriends. I discovered that boy-friends serve as fantastic friends but also come with a value added feature. The perspective of the opposite sex!! I can’t tell you how much having a guy’s opinion has helped me. Lets face it girls, our wiring tends to be designed by emotion. When most of us vent we normally start with “this makes me feel…” or “lately I have been feeling…..” or “I feel that when…”

Guys don’t do this. They tend to function more on logic and don’t really get it when we go on emotional rants and start venting to them. When we’re tearing up and frustrated that something isn’t working, they instinctively want to fix it. But all we want is for them to hand us a Kleenex and listen.

So if you’re lucky enough to find a friend like my buddy…who will totally listen to me and let me vent before calmly telling me I am overreacting or reading way too much into something or that I need to relax on certain situations…count your blessings. Because of this person I have learned to see different situations in a more relaxed, logical and realistic way. And I think that when you have a solid guy friend who is truly there for you (and not distracted by trying to get into your pants) they can teach you a great deal.

So here is my suggestion. Ladies, go out and find yourself a boy-friend who you feel comfortable with and can be honest with and can vent to and you will find that you start to see certain situations in a totally different light.

See? They are useful for things other then sex afterall!

peace

Jill

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We all know some guys like the classic blonde, some prefer sassy  brunettes, (who can blame them;) ), and some guys like the fiery redheads. We also know that most guys would LOVE to see the classic blonde with sassy brunette with the fiery redhead.

And really who can blame them? Lets face it, the female body is a much more aesthetically pleasing figure. Sorry guys.

But what is it about girls making out with other girls that guys find soooo sexy?  I know that the opportunity of having threesome with 2 girls ranks very high on the male fantasy chart. So do you guys get a kick out of watching two girls kiss because it makes you think you’re just a little closer to reaching your dreams? Is that why you stare slack-jawed at the event like a little kid that’s watched too much TV and has slipped into the unfocused boob-tube daze? (pun intended)

Well I hate to pop your day-dream fellas…but we know what turns your crank. And we’re happy to dangle the carrot in front of you. It’s fun and at times serves our purpose.

Lets fess up girls. How many times have you been at a club or party with your girlfriends, and you’ve had a couple of cocktails and feeling fun…so you give your gal pal a smooch or two. And what do you get? Gawks and a few more cocktails. It’s almost a guaranteed sighting, especially around the younger 20s.

I once had a group of girlfriends that I went on a skiing/tubing trip with in Ellicottville, NY.  The first night we went out to the local bars and when we were leaving we had to walk through this massive group of guys. One of my girlfriends pushed my other girlfriend against the wall between two guys, kissed her and then left her stunned and in middle of the group. We all watched and laughed as all the guys surrounded her, eager to chat her up and get her a good stiff one. I mean…buy her a drink.

But just so you don’t misunderstand, we actually like doing it. It’s not exactly torture. I just don’t want you guys getting the wrong impression and hatching your own plan to play tonsil hockey with your buddy in the hopes of getting a free pint.

So you see? We feed your fantasies, you pay lots of attention to us and buy us drinks. It’s win, win.

Cheers

Jill

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