We all know that good girlfriends are hard to come by. The ones that stick by you through anything and don’t judge you for stupid mistakes you may make. I am lucky to have a few of those girlfriends currently in my life. I love each and everyone of them and feel blessed that I have them.

However.

When birds of a feather only flock together, it can kind of skew your perspective and sense of direction.

I was in my early twenties when I moved into my own place and had the opportunity to learn how valuable boy friends can be!

I have one very close guy friend who I love just as much as my girlfriends. I discovered that boy-friends serve as fantastic friends but also come with a value added feature. The perspective of the opposite sex!! I can’t tell you how much having a guy’s opinion has helped me. Lets face it girls, our wiring tends to be designed by emotion. When most of us vent we normally start with “this makes me feel…” or “lately I have been feeling…..” or “I feel that when…”

Guys don’t do this. They tend to function more on logic and don’t really get it when we go on emotional rants and start venting to them. When we’re tearing up and frustrated that something isn’t working, they instinctively want to fix it. But all we want is for them to hand us a Kleenex and listen.

So if you’re lucky enough to find a friend like my buddy…who will totally listen to me and let me vent before calmly telling me I am overreacting or reading way too much into something or that I need to relax on certain situations…count your blessings. Because of this person I have learned to see different situations in a more relaxed, logical and realistic way. And I think that when you have a solid guy friend who is truly there for you (and not distracted by trying to get into your pants) they can teach you a great deal.

So here is my suggestion. Ladies, go out and find yourself a boy-friend who you feel comfortable with and can be honest with and can vent to and you will find that you start to see certain situations in a totally different light.

See? They are useful for things other then sex afterall!

peace

Jill

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