I think women have a hard time recognizing abuse when it’s emotional and/or psychological.  It’s harder to pick up on since it doesn’t leave a bruise or a welt or a scar. Instead it eats away at you from the inside and affects you to the core.

Now I understand that without knowing you or your situation it would be impossible for me to have a sense of whether your hooked up with Prince Charming or hanging with Satan. But in case you are having some concerns and are in need of a supportive voice…please watch this weeks episode. Here are a few signs to watch out for in an abusive personality.

If your partner tells you what to do/makes decisions for you and expects you to obey them. If they have ever made you feel bad about yourself, publicly insulted you or made fun of you. If they have cut you off from your family or friends, made threats to hurt you or someone you love, made threatening looks or gestures to you or broken things in front of you, hurt your pets, destroyed your property, or blamed their  abusive or violent behavior on anything other then themselves then you may be in a situation that needs to be addressed.

The first thing I’d recommend is communication. Are they aware they have a problem? Are they willing to get help? If the answer to these questions is “no”, then you may need to start making choices about whether you want to leave this toxic situation or keep on subjecting yourself to this subtle yet devastating behavior.

It’s something that cannot be taken lightly and I would recommend you seek counseling from a qualified professional that knows how to deal with these situations. I know it can be tough realizing that you are in a situation like this. But you’re not alone.  Some abusers can be extremely subtle and it can be hard to recognize the signs when 80% of the time things are great between the two of you. Or at least you think it is.

What breaks my heart about women caught up in these destructive relationships is that most of them are so emotionally and psychologically beaten down that they believe they’re worthless and that no one would ever love them. I am here to tell you that that is absolutely NOT true.
There are caring people out there that will be more respectful, kinder and will love and appreciate you no matter what.  Men would never dream of physically hurting you or psychologically beating you down. Instead they provide a healthy environment where you can feel free to be yourself, make your mistakes and learn from them instead of being ridiculed for them.

For more information there are a TON of sites on the web and you can always contact your local shelter for tips or help on leaving an abusive relationship.  I have also linked a couple of sites in the links section that can help you plan your way out.

Please don’t be scared to leave, you are only standing up for yourself and improving your situation for the better.

peace

J

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